We all experience some form of change in our lives. This is most evident in the development and growth we undergo from infancy to adulthood. We started out in this world unable to walk or talk and now you may be reading this article from a computer at work or on a mobile phone at a local hotspot, while waiting to meet someone.
However, while there are changes that come naturally and are, therefore, inevitable, there are those sorts of changes that seem to derail us from the “plans” we have set for ourselves. Not all change seems good – that’s a fact. Some changes are empowering, but some may be depressing. When the latter happens, most of us just tend to raise our hands in defeat and give up.
However, we shouldn’t wave the white flag at challenges so easily. Are you familiar with the sayings,”what does not kill you only makes you stronger,” or “we aren’t given what we can’t bear”? These apply here and now. While change is constant and cannot be prevented, we can all find ways to regulate our responses to it, not only to keep our sanity intact, but we can also learn and grow from these changes.
Here are five suggestions to coping with life changes smoothly.
1. Accept that change is inevitable.
The first step to coping with change is acknowledging that it exists and that it is there. It IS going to happen. Running away from it and pretending it doesn’t exist will tend to only make matters worse.
For instance, if all of a sudden the main person you’ve been talking to for the past few months now backed out and decided not to go through with your aggreement, it doesn’t do well to lock yourself up in your bedroom and cry for a week or using mind numbing chemicals. Try to resolve the issue with the other person and discuss, calmly, the reasons for the change of heart. Especially try to see their point of view, and share your point of view in a loving and peaceful manner.
2. There are many paths to choose from.
If things do not go your way and/or they deviate from your plan, try another way. There are many alternatives to achieve your goals and desires if only you become more open to them. When you set a plan, always realize that many things can happen along the way, and that you don’t always win how you think you will. Have a plan B, plan C, plan D, and so forth. Or, even if you don’t have contingency plans, acknowledge that you have many other options besides the one you already set your mind to. Keep the principle of your end goal in mind and be flexible in how to achieve it AND still maintain your morals and principles.
3. Keep a positive attitude.
Sure, change can be stressful. However, you can try to make it less painful and stressful by looking at the brighter side of things. So your date cancelled at the last minute? Not what you wanted but hey, No sweat. At least, now, you have some time to spend with your family or friends, or get to enjoy some alone time. Go get a massage or treat yourself to that book you’ve wanted to check out and a fun treat. Sometimes, when “bad” changes happen, it is usually to open doors for a new and better event to come in. So don’t judge it as “bad”.
4. You are not alone.
Everyone experiences change. Thus, you should not single yourself out and play hermit. Go out and talk with positive friends and trusted mentors. Enjoy your time. Laugh at the challenges together.
5. Welcome it with open arms.
You’ve probably heard this, when God closes a door, He opens a window. Whatever your spiritual beliefs are, see the change as an opportunity to be introduced to new things and a chance to make improvements in your life. This is the time to tinker with the things you might have overlooked with your original plan. Look for the positive points and potential. Savor the moment and smile.
As you finish reading this, feel free to notice what you didn’t like about the situations and changes, but then write down or take note of what you have learned and gained from them. Then write down what you would like to happen next and take some inspired action to make that happen.
Make note of, or even write down what you are grateful for each and every day. This is one of the most powerful things you can do to reach your desires.
Success to you!
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